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Tandem: The Personal Adoption Story of Adoptive Mom, Author and Adoption Professional
Our adoption story started 10 years ago on an old country road. That nudge towards adoption landed us in rural Wisconsin 5 years later-holding our newborn baby girl. Then, three years ago I went to bed after singing “Baby Beluga” and reading “God Found Us You” to our adopted beauty, Annika. That night I had a dream that woke me and catapulted me into writing a book. At 3:00am I shuffled into the back room in our house, opened my computer and started writing.
Secondary Infertility – A Painful and Lonely Reality
Many women that suffer with secondary infertility do so in silence, and they often feel very lonely and misunderstood. The truth is that if you suffer from secondary infertility, you are not alone. According to NCHS data, nearly 800,000 married women with one child are unable to get pregnant again after one year of having unprotected sex. They often feel like they don’t have the right to complain or grieve because they have been blessed with a child. Those who verbalize their concerns about their condition are often met with responses that can be hurtful, like “Some people can’t even have one child” and “you are blessed to have children”. And yes I was blessed, but it didn’t take away the longing in my heart for another child.
A Birth Mother’s Story – Love is a Journey
I thought I had survived my tumultuous teenage years when I graduated from high school, received a scholarship to college, and moved across the country to begin a fresh, new chapter. However, less than six weeks into my first semester, and home for a family visit and a doctor’s appointment to complete my immunizations for school, my life turned upside down.
An Adult Adoptee Shares Her Story
Not every adult adoptee feels the same about their adoption, but as an adoptive mother and adoption professional, I love to hear personal accounts of adoption, from every perspective in the adoption triad (birth parents, adoptive parents and adoptee). These stories help adoptive parents to raise their children to feel as comfortable and secure as possible in their personal adoption story. Today, an old friend and adult adoptee shares her adoption story. We hope you'll enjoy it as much as we did!
The Basic Steps in a Domestic Infant Adoption
Many people consider adopting but become too discouraged by the complexity of the adoption process to proceed past an initial thought. It's true that adoption is a complex process that includes preparation, education, the legal process, finances, not to mention the emotions involved! No two adoptions are the same, and each state's laws are a little different, but each follow the same general steps:
Gifting the Birth Parents
Although there is no tangible gift that can thank a woman enough for bearing a child that she will entrust completely to another, it is understandable that adoptive parents may want to pass forward a token of appreciation and acknowledgment to their child’s birth mother and, in some circumstances, birth father.
The Adoption Tax Credit
If you have adopted a child or are considering it, you may already know about the Adoption Tax Credit. The credit, which has been part of federal tax law since 1997, allows adoptive families to defray some of the costs incurred when they grow their families through adoption. It has helped bring together hundreds of thousands of families, many of whom would not have been able to grow their families through adoption without it.
Our Story: The Purl Stitch
I always imagined having a large, close-knit family, but my diagnosis of endometriosis made biological children unlikely. Luckily, I met and married a wonderful man who also loved the idea of adoption.
Our Founder’s Personal Adoption Journey
My own adoption story is relatively short as far as time… we took home our daughter within six months of being certified to adopt… but it was not without its fair share of drama. Fortunately, it ends with the most perfect child becoming a permanent part of our family.
Positive Adoption Terminology
Just last week, I had five different encounters where perfect strangers asked me about my daughter’s “real parents,” each not meaning to be hurtful, just inquisitive. Luckily, my child isn’t yet old enough to understand or be hurt by those particular words, but I know that day will come.
Tandem: The Personal Adoption Story of Adoptive Mom, Author and Adoption Professional
Our adoption story started 10 years ago on an old country road. That nudge towards adoption landed us in rural Wisconsin 5 years later-holding our newborn baby girl. Then, three years ago I went to bed after singing “Baby Beluga” and reading “God Found Us You” to our adopted beauty, Annika. That night I had a dream that woke me and catapulted me into writing a book. At 3:00am I shuffled into the back room in our house, opened my computer and started writing.
Secondary Infertility – A Painful and Lonely Reality
Many women that suffer with secondary infertility do so in silence, and they often feel very lonely and misunderstood. The truth is that if you suffer from secondary infertility, you are not alone. According to NCHS data, nearly 800,000 married women with one child are unable to get pregnant again after one year of having unprotected sex. They often feel like they don’t have the right to complain or grieve because they have been blessed with a child. Those who verbalize their concerns about their condition are often met with responses that can be hurtful, like “Some people can’t even have one child” and “you are blessed to have children”. And yes I was blessed, but it didn’t take away the longing in my heart for another child.
A Birth Mother’s Story – Love is a Journey
I thought I had survived my tumultuous teenage years when I graduated from high school, received a scholarship to college, and moved across the country to begin a fresh, new chapter. However, less than six weeks into my first semester, and home for a family visit and a doctor’s appointment to complete my immunizations for school, my life turned upside down.
An Adult Adoptee Shares Her Story
Not every adult adoptee feels the same about their adoption, but as an adoptive mother and adoption professional, I love to hear personal accounts of adoption, from every perspective in the adoption triad (birth parents, adoptive parents and adoptee). These stories help adoptive parents to raise their children to feel as comfortable and secure as possible in their personal adoption story. Today, an old friend and adult adoptee shares her adoption story. We hope you'll enjoy it as much as we did!
The Basic Steps in a Domestic Infant Adoption
Many people consider adopting but become too discouraged by the complexity of the adoption process to proceed past an initial thought. It's true that adoption is a complex process that includes preparation, education, the legal process, finances, not to mention the emotions involved! No two adoptions are the same, and each state's laws are a little different, but each follow the same general steps:
Gifting the Birth Parents
Although there is no tangible gift that can thank a woman enough for bearing a child that she will entrust completely to another, it is understandable that adoptive parents may want to pass forward a token of appreciation and acknowledgment to their child’s birth mother and, in some circumstances, birth father.
The Adoption Tax Credit
If you have adopted a child or are considering it, you may already know about the Adoption Tax Credit. The credit, which has been part of federal tax law since 1997, allows adoptive families to defray some of the costs incurred when they grow their families through adoption. It has helped bring together hundreds of thousands of families, many of whom would not have been able to grow their families through adoption without it.
Our Story: The Purl Stitch
I always imagined having a large, close-knit family, but my diagnosis of endometriosis made biological children unlikely. Luckily, I met and married a wonderful man who also loved the idea of adoption.
Our Founder’s Personal Adoption Journey
My own adoption story is relatively short as far as time… we took home our daughter within six months of being certified to adopt… but it was not without its fair share of drama. Fortunately, it ends with the most perfect child becoming a permanent part of our family.
Positive Adoption Terminology
Just last week, I had five different encounters where perfect strangers asked me about my daughter’s “real parents,” each not meaning to be hurtful, just inquisitive. Luckily, my child isn’t yet old enough to understand or be hurt by those particular words, but I know that day will come.
