Infertility – A Lonely Battle
This week is Infertility Awareness Week. Infertility sucks - there’s really no other way to put it. Actually, I can think of a lot of words I’d use to describe infertility, but most of them would need to be censored.
This week is Infertility Awareness Week. Infertility sucks - there’s really no other way to put it. Actually, I can think of a lot of words I’d use to describe infertility, but most of them would need to be censored.
March is Endometriosis Awareness Month. I have suffered from endometriosis since High School and I assume my condition related at least in part to some of my fertility issues. Endometriosis is a painful chronic condition affecting more than 5 million women in the U.S. alone.
Many women that suffer with secondary infertility do so in silence, and they often feel very lonely and misunderstood. The truth is that if you suffer from secondary infertility, you are not alone. According to NCHS data, nearly 800,000 married women with one child are unable to get pregnant again after one year of having unprotected sex. They often feel like they don’t have the right to complain or grieve because they have been blessed with a child. Those who verbalize their concerns about their condition are often met with responses that can be hurtful, like “Some people can’t even have one child” and “you are blessed to have children”. And yes I was blessed, but it didn’t take away the longing in my heart for another child.
My own adoption story is relatively short as far as time… we took home our daughter within six months of being certified to adopt… but it was not without its fair share of drama. Fortunately, it ends with the most perfect child becoming a permanent part of our family.