Adoption Perspectives Archives

Another way to look at birthdays…

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T07:35:13-07:00December 2, 2020|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt|

So, today is my (gulp) 43rd birthday. I used to be one of those people who LOVED my birthday, and was so excited to celebrate it, preferably for a whole week. Now that I’m in my 40s, I feel a little less like that (I’d really rather like to stop aging altogether), but it has also been adoption that has changed my perspective on birthdays as well. My mom typically texts me or calls me the morning of my birthday, celebrating a special and momentous day for her as well. But the same can’t be said for a birth mother who placed her child with another. My daughter Cora’s birthday is only a week after mine, and now I feel a pang of sadness on Cora’s birthday each year. Click here to read more.

Why You Want an Attorney to Represent You in Your Adoption

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T07:36:01-07:00November 24, 2020|Adoption Education, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt|

At Purl, we work very closely with adoption attorneys as we guide our families through the domestic infant adoption process. Before a family actively begins their adoption process, we work with our Purl Families to determine the best professionals for a multi-professional (attorneys and agencies) approach to their adoption journey. Our recommendations always include at least one adoption attorney that is a fellow in the Academy of Adoption and Assisted Reproduction Attorneys (“AAAA”). As a lawyer myself, licensed in both Arizona and California, I believe strongly in legal representation at least by the point of a match with an expectant family, and separate representation for adoptive families and expectant families. One of the adoption attorneys we work closely with is Ted R. Youmans, founder of Familybuilding, a professional law corporation with offices in California and Idaho. Ted has practiced law for over 33 years exclusively in adoption, focusing on private, agency, newborn, toddler, special needs, interstate, stepparent, adult, disrupted and foster care adoption, as well as the related litigation to those adoptions. Ted is a member of AAAA and the California Academy of Adoption Attorneys, academies dedicated to the promotion and development of highly competent, ethical practices in adoption and children’s law. Today, Ted shares his thoughts as to Why You Need an Attorney to Represent You in Your Adoption.

Be the Bridge – A Guide to Transracial Adoption

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T07:37:02-07:00November 23, 2020|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption, Transracial Adoption (Learn)|

This is a blog post written by Gina Fimbel, MSW. She’s an educator with Be the Bridge, an organization created to empower people and culture toward racial healing, equity and reconciliation. In her post, she explains more about their organization as well as their Transracial Adoption Guide that can help prospective adoptive families considering transracial adoption, or families who have already adopted transracially. Click here to read more, or to purchase their Transracial Adoption Guide.

Substance Exposure In Utero

BPetersonDesign2023-07-19T16:12:08-07:00November 14, 2020|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Drug/Alcohol Exposure|

This is a guest blog post written by a mom through adoption, and a former Purl family. She is writing anonymously so that we can continue to protect her child’s adoption story.

When you decide that adoption will be a means to growing your family, you’re saying yes to a great deal of unknowns, whether you realize it or not. Post-home study, once you’re working with an adoption professional like an advisor, licensed agency, or an adoption attorney, you’ll be confronted with your “preferences” for your child and the circumstances in which he or she has been conceived and born. When you say yes to adoption, you say yes to an absence of control. Click here to learn more!

Proud To Be Adopted (An Adoptee’s Perspective)

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T08:48:50-07:00November 12, 2020|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption, Transracial Adoption (Learn)|

To celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month, we are sharing resources to help prospective adoptive parents and adoptive parents in an adoption journey. But we think the best way to learn about adoption is from adoption perspectives, particularly the perspective of the adoptee, the part of the triad that doesn’t typically get to enter into adoption voluntarily. Today, we are sharing the perspective of an adoptee and Purl’s Administrative Assistant, Emily, who wanted to share more about her adoption story, and her thoughts and feelings towards her adoption (see her initial post here). Keep in mind that no two adoptions are the same, and you will hear both positive and negative stories of adoption from adoptees, but we are excited to share her perspective.

My name is Emily, and I’m proud to be adopted. Click here to read more….

Natural Haircare Coaching: Tutus & Tennis Shoes

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T14:42:01-07:00November 5, 2020|Adoption Education, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt, Transracial Adoption (Learn)|

Today we are featuring an amazing resource for prospective adoptive families and adoptive families considering transracial (Black) adoption: Kanisha Tillman, the owner of Tutus & Tennis Shoes LLC (TTS). TTS has been designed to be a community enterprise that celebrates everything about the beauty and health of naturally curly hair and black girls. TTS is dedicated to making sure that everyone has access to the proper education and support in taking care of their child’s naturally curly hair. What started as a brick and mortar children’s salon in Des Moines, Iowa has grown into a global community of fellow natural hair lovers, including and focusing on transracially adoptive families. TTS offers online courses in haircare, support groups, virtual 1 on 1 sessions for education, and an online store full of tools and products to ensure total hair care success. Click here to read more about her and access her ABC’s of Hair Care, and the Tutus Hair Care Shopping List.

National Adoption Awareness Month

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T14:45:15-07:00November 1, 2020|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt|

November is National Awareness Month. During the month of November we celebrate and raise awareness of adoption. While every type of adoption is celebrated, the particular focus this month is to raise awareness about the urgent need for adoptive families for children and youth in foster care. During the month of November, people across the nation raise awareness of adoption and hope that awareness of adoption encourages others to open their homes to children waiting for a forever home. Also, this month includes National Adoption Day, which is usually observed in courthouses nationwide, where thousands of adoptions are finalized on National Adoption Day,. COVID has put a damper on some state’s celebrations, but we are hopeful that there will still be energy around this important cause. This year, Purl will be highlighting some of our favorite resources for both prospective adoptive families and families that are already formed through adoption. We hope you’ll enjoy what we share!

A Purl Family’s Pregnancy Loss + Infertility Journey

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T14:47:05-07:00October 19, 2020|Adoption Perspectives, Hoping to Adopt, Infertility|

Priscilla is a prospective adoptive mother who has been through tremendous tragedy and loss trying to grow her family. Today, in honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness week, she shares her three pregnancy losses and her infertility journey in hopes that it will help others feel less alone in the process. Now, Priscilla and her husband Daniel are a Purl family who feel like these losses led them to their adoption journey. To read more about their story, click here.

What NOT to Say to a Parent Through Adoption

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T14:50:43-07:00September 11, 2020|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption|

Just a quick note to remind even those well-intentioned people who ask questions or make comments about adoption to adoptive parents. This is a blog post I can relate to identifying 10 Things NOT to say to an adoptive parent, as I believe I’ve been asked/told all of these 10 things she points out at one point or another after adopting our daughter Cora. I have shared insight about positive adoption language, myths and misnomers and similar topics before, but hopefully this is a good reminder. Surprisingly enough, I have actually gotten these questions by perfect strangers more than even close friends or family. So here’s a quick list of what NOT to say…

Transracial Adoption – Why Understanding and Caring for Black Hair Is A “Non-Negotiable”

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T14:51:28-07:00September 1, 2020|Adoption Education, Adoption Perspectives, Transracial Adoption (Learn)|

An adoptive mother of a black daughter shares with us today about the importance of black hair care and why it is nonnegotiable to learn more about this vital piece of adopting a child of color. She believes this knowledge is helpful in honestly laying out there before a white family decides to adopt a black child. She also includes details on her daughter’s hair care, so that we can all understand the specificity of hair care. Click here to read more.

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