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Anxiety and a Child Through Adoption

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T17:01:53-07:00June 11, 2019|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption|

A guest writer shares her experiences with anxiety in her pre-teen son through adoption.

Anxiety and the adopted child often times go hand-in-hand. The hard part about diving into adoption is you have no idea the issues you will experience with your child as they grow and face the realities of their story. Every adoptee has to face their story in different stages of life. I can only speak to walking with my child on his adoption story for the last 10 years, but one of the themes I have experienced with my son is that anxiety and adoption tend to go together.

My Journey to An Open Adoption

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T17:02:45-07:00June 7, 2019|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Hoping to Adopt, Open Adoption (Learn)|

When my husband Ray and I started the adoption process, the thing we were scared about most was “open adoption”. We learned quickly that most domestic adoptions were “open”, but that had many different meanings. We pictured open adoption as a co-parenting situation, and had fears that our child wouldn’t bond with us or feel like we were her “real parents” if we had an open adoption with our child’s birth family (and yes I cringe too that I even wrote “real parent” in my blog as something I thought and possibly even said out loud)! Luckily we learned a lot over the course of our adoption journey.

A Love-Hate Relationship with Mother’s Day

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T17:03:07-07:00May 9, 2019|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt, Infertility|

Oh Mother's Day ... you can bring so much joy and so much pain to so many. When I was single and in my mid-30s, I often wondered if I'd ever be a mother. Mother's Day seemed to be the day where someone stuck a knife in my heart a little and twisted it around, as I watched my friends and family celebrate a role I desperately wanted. When I finally met my husband, got married and started trying for a family, we went through a round of IVF that failed right before Mother's Day. Probably due in part to all the hormones I still had flowing through my body, I remember bursting into tears during our Pastor’s message at church, ultimately leaving early and ignoring the holiday altogether the rest of the day.

Infertility – A Lonely Battle

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T17:15:44-07:00April 24, 2019|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Hoping to Adopt, Infertility|

This week is Infertility Awareness Week. Infertility sucks - there’s really no other way to put it. Actually, I can think of a lot of words I’d use to describe infertility, but most of them would need to be censored.

My Child By Adoption is Not “Lucky”…

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T17:19:18-07:00March 17, 2019|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption Perspectives, Open Adoption (Learn)|

On this St. Patrick’s Day, my beautiful little girl through adoption (who is likely at least some part Irish with her beautiful auburn hair) will dress up in green, put her Shamrock stickers all over our house, and her face is likely to be covered at some point in Mint Chip Ice Cream. However, we will not talk about her having the “Luck of the Irish” because she ended up in our family.

Protecting Your Child’s Adoption Story

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T17:21:50-07:00February 21, 2019|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption Perspectives, Drug/Alcohol Exposure, Open Adoption (Learn)|

When you are an adoptive parent, you are bound to get questions from friends, family and strangers alike about the details of your child’s adoption story, particularly if you have adopted transracially. As a mom of two girls only eight months apart in age (and currently the exact same height), I can’t seem to get out of a public place without questioning stares and at least one person asking me how I managed to get two such adorable, but completely different looking children. I have never had a trip to Costco with the girls without someone asking me where Cora’s adorable auburn curls and gorgeous brown eyes came from.

Attachment in Adoption

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T17:24:29-07:00December 5, 2018|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives|

Sarah Crawford, PhD, LPC, is a child therapist and a parent coach in Arizona who specializes in working with parents to address issues related to attachment, parent-child relationships, and adoption. She helps parents identify what their unique situation needs, while helping parents deepen trust and strengthen family connections. We sat down with Sarah to better understand attachment and how attachment concerns can arise in adoption. Here's what Sarah had to say…

Reflections of a Birth Mom

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T17:27:32-07:00September 9, 2018|Adoption Education, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption, Open Adoption (Learn)|

I missed the boat on motherhood.

What does that mean? It means missed opportunity, lost moments never to be reclaimed, chances I will never have.

An Adoptive Parent’s Labor

BPetersonDesign2023-07-19T15:36:20-07:00May 1, 2018|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption|

Two sweet Purl families are currently matched with expectant mothers due in the next days and months. It is such an exciting time, but they now must endure the difficult wait that comes with adoption. It brings back lots of memories for me personally of our journey to become parents. I still remember telling one of my friends that my husband and I were going to stop the infertility treatments for awhile and begin the adoption process, and her response: "Well, at least you aren't going to have to go through labor to have your baby". At the time, I didn't think much of the comment, and probably even nodded in agreement. Little did I know, my version of "labor" was going to last over 72 hours, and the first time I experienced that labor, I would be leaving a hospital without a baby.

An Aspiring Young Photographer and Adoptee’s Story

BPetersonDesign2022-04-01T17:32:42-07:00February 15, 2018|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives|

Caleb Busak is a talented, aspiring young photographer who was adopted from South Korea as an infant. Today he shares his adoption story, of growing with a different ethnicity than his parents and his community. HIs shares his struggles with the concept of adoption, but also tells of his deep love and respect for his adoptive parents who have given him so much love and so many opportunities. We hope you enjoy his story, as well as the beautiful photos he has taken that are featured here.

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