Adoption is Hard

Substance Exposure In Utero

2023-07-19T16:12:08-07:00November 14, 2020|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Drug/Alcohol Exposure|

This is a guest blog post written by a mom through adoption, and a former Purl family. She is writing anonymously so that we can continue to protect her child’s adoption story.

When you decide that adoption will be a means to growing your family, you’re saying yes to a great deal of unknowns, whether you realize it or not. Post-home study, once you’re working with an adoption professional like an advisor, licensed agency, or an adoption attorney, you’ll be confronted with your “preferences” for your child and the circumstances in which he or she has been conceived and born. When you say yes to adoption, you say yes to an absence of control. Click here to learn more!

Proud To Be Adopted (An Adoptee’s Perspective)

2022-04-01T08:48:50-07:00November 12, 2020|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption, Transracial Adoption (Learn)|

To celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month, we are sharing resources to help prospective adoptive parents and adoptive parents in an adoption journey. But we think the best way to learn about adoption is from adoption perspectives, particularly the perspective of the adoptee, the part of the triad that doesn’t typically get to enter into adoption voluntarily. Today, we are sharing the perspective of an adoptee and Purl’s Administrative Assistant, Emily, who wanted to share more about her adoption story, and her thoughts and feelings towards her adoption (see her initial post here). Keep in mind that no two adoptions are the same, and you will hear both positive and negative stories of adoption from adoptees, but we are excited to share her perspective.

My name is Emily, and I’m proud to be adopted. Click here to read more….

Adoption Tax Planning and Filing Resource

2022-03-31T09:32:25-07:00November 4, 2020|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Domestic infant adoption, Funding Your Adoption|

On a day of uncertainty, let’s talk about something that is certain - taxes! As we go through November’s National Adoption Awareness Month, we are identifying resources that help prospective adoptive families and families who have adopted with some aspect of the adoption process. I like talking about taxes about as much as I like talking about politics, but due to tax credits, deductions and subsidies available to adoptive families and the increasing costs in domestic infant adoption, it is an important topic for any family considering or who has completed an adoption. Click here to learn about tax professionals who specialize in helping families who have adopted or are considering adoption with their tax needs.

The Adoption Baby Shower Dilemma

2022-04-01T14:46:03-07:00October 21, 2020|Adoption Disruption, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt|

Adoption changes the way in which parents prepare for a child. When you are preparing to have a child biologically, you typically have 9 months to think about your registry, what you might need, and time for friends and family to offer to throw you a baby shower where you get many of the items you might need to bring home a new baby. If you are adding to your family through domestic infant adoption, many prospective adoptive parents struggle with whether and when it is appropriate to have a baby shower, but at the same time they could really use the baby items and the support from friends and family before they take home their child. So, I do think prospective adoptive parents should consider having an adoption baby shower, but I think the timing of that shower is really important. Click here to learn more.

Gender Specificity in An Adoption Journey

2024-12-04T08:57:53-07:00October 9, 2020|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Drug/Alcohol Exposure, Hoping to Adopt|

Recently, I have had an increasing number of hopeful adoptive parents contacting us at Purl and desiring a specific gender in their adoption. As a mom to two daughters who considered adopting a third child, we toyed with the idea of completing our family by adding a baby boy. I can understand that inclination. However, many hopeful adoptive families make the choice to limit themselves on gender without truly understanding and acknowledging how much more difficult being gender specific can be in your adoption journey. Click on our link to learn more.

Post-Adoption Depression & Anxiety

2022-04-01T14:49:59-07:00September 17, 2020|Adoption is Hard, Domestic infant adoption, Infertility|

Mental health therapist and adoptive mother shares the “what” and “why” factors related to post-adoption depression and anxiety. Though these diagnoses are frequently given to biological mothers and fathers, many adoptive parents struggle with the same diagnosis and suffer alone and under-supported. Click here to learn more about post-adoption depression and anxiety.

What NOT to Say to a Parent Through Adoption

2022-04-01T14:50:43-07:00September 11, 2020|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption|

Just a quick note to remind even those well-intentioned people who ask questions or make comments about adoption to adoptive parents. This is a blog post I can relate to identifying 10 Things NOT to say to an adoptive parent, as I believe I’ve been asked/told all of these 10 things she points out at one point or another after adopting our daughter Cora. I have shared insight about positive adoption language, myths and misnomers and similar topics before, but hopefully this is a good reminder. Surprisingly enough, I have actually gotten these questions by perfect strangers more than even close friends or family. So here’s a quick list of what NOT to say…

Differences in Openness Within an Adoptive Family

2022-04-01T14:52:45-07:00August 12, 2020|Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Domestic infant adoption, Hoping to Adopt, Open Adoption (Learn)|

Purl’s new adoption advisor and adoptive mother shares her perspective on her three daughter’s adoptions. She explores themes surrounding her eldest daughter’s open adoption and what that specifically looks like for her family, with the differing degrees of openness with her other children’s birth family. 

The Continuing Impact of COVID-19 on Domestic Adoption

2023-07-19T16:10:44-07:00July 10, 2020|Adoption Advisor, Adoption Education, Adoption is Hard, Adoption Perspectives, Adoption Process, Domestic infant adoption, Drug/Alcohol Exposure, Hoping to Adopt|

This is an update on the continued impact of COVID-19 on domestic adoptions. Many of you may have read my post in March on the impact of COVID-19, but I wanted to update that, particularly as we enter a new wave of cases in some states. What has been most interesting for us at Purl though, has been the significant increase in the numbers of potential prospective adoptive parents contacting us, which seems to have resulted in part due to families being home, potentially with more time to start the adoption process. That, coupled with these factors below, are making for an interesting domestic adoption environment for prospective adoptive families (a few positives, but overall generally negative). Click here to learn more.

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