As you probably know, February is Black History Month. I often feature other writers or adoptees to talk about race and transracial adoption, since I can’t speak to that from personal experience. I was admittedly naïve about transracial adoption before my own personal adoption experience, even though I always considered myself someone that was very open on race, in my words “color-blind”.
First off, a little about me. I grew up in the suburbs of Tucson, Arizona….
We are excited to feature a new home study approved Purl family from Georgia, Mac and Marcie! This couple has been happily married for 4 and 1/2 years and can’t wait to grow their family through adoption. They have two sweet dogs, Cider and Gracie, who are waiting to be big “sisters”! To learn more about this hopeful adoptive couple, download their profile, or learn how to contact them directly, click here.
If you’re an adoptee, birth mother, or adoptive parent and you’re like me, you probably have heard many people say things to you about adoption that make you want to cringe! Now, I know I likely heard (or maybe even thought) these things before adopting my daughter and really understanding adoption but I’m so glad to have learned better now. I want to help others learn too!
Some of the statements I have heard about adoption that make me want to cringe. Check out our post to learn why, and to add your own bothersome statements to help others be educated on what adoption is (or at least should be).
We are thrilled to feature a new home study approved Purl family from Minnesota, John, Sarah and their adorable boys Milo and Luca! This family seeks to love and build one another up into who they were created to be, and they love to laugh A LOT! One of their favorite things to do is to have family dance parties, and their kids already have better moves than John does! To learn more about this hopeful adoptive couple, download their profile, or learn how to contact them directly, click here.
Adoption is brokenness. And our adoption community is broken.
My heart has been heavy all week. More scandal alleged in the adoption community, and this time by a consulting company I had heard mostly positive feedback about until the past year. A company I considered to be a formidable “competitor“ even before I was even a blip in this industry, but one I had originally wanted to emulate. I don’t pretend to know the details or all sides of this story, or the ins and outs of how this company operates. I don’t know what’s true or what’s biased, and I haven’t seen the evidence. But even though I am relatively new to this industry, I do know our community is broken. I know it is broken because I’ve seen it, felt it, and haven’t found a way to avoid it entirely or fix it. We hope you’ll read more to find out why we started this business and what we stand for, and how we are trying to navigate the brokenness, even with our own mistakes.
We are so thrilled to feature a home study approved (and certified to adopt) Arizona Purl family, Kevin, Syl and their adorable daughter Rio! As a family they love to hike, watch movies, play in the backyard, go out to breakfast, have friends and family visit, snuggle, and play sports. They are always up for an adventure and always together! They put family first and have more love to share. Their family motto is “Life is better when you’re laughing together!” To learn more about this family, download their family profile, or contact them, click here.
If you are a parent through domestic adoption, you’ve probably heard the following phrases said to you by well-meaning friends, family, acquaintances and even perfect strangers: “Why didn’t her birth mother want her?” “Why didn’t her birth mother love her enough to keep her?” “What is the story with her real mother?'“ “She’s so lucky to be in your family!” I wanted to touch on each of these briefly for people who may not be as familiar with adoption, and to also help adoptive families learn how to better respond to these types of questions/comments.
We have discussed the domestic adoption process for a prospective adoptive parent up to the point where you are matched, have traveled, and now have arrived at the hospital. You have prepared a gift for the expectant family, you are being as flexible as possible in the hospital because you know adoption plans change and are fluid, but wow, are you stressed! The period of time between the birth and the signing of consents is rough, there is no way around it. It is obviously very hard on the expectant family, who are likely making one of the most difficult decisions of their lives. But it is also very difficult as a prospective adoptive parent. Read my own experience with this waiting period, I called it “An Adoptive Parent’s Labor”.
If you are a prospective adoptive parent chosen for a child that is going to be born in a different state than your state of residence, you will need to travel for the birth and stay in that state until you are cleared through the Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children (“ICPC”). ICPC is an agreement enacted by all 50 U.S. states, the District of Columbia and the Virgin Islands and it governs the placement of children from one state into another state. To learn more about ICPC, making adoption travel accomodations and what to pack, read more!
If you’ve been following along this month, we are finally to the point where it gets really exciting, but also very nerve-wracking! You’ve been chosen as prospective adoptive parents for a child and you have to get prepared to possibly become a parent, likely in much less preparation time than you’d have if you were pregnant yourself. So, what do you need to know and become prepared for?! If you have an adoption advisor like Purl, your advisor and the attorney or agency you matched through should be helping thoroughly prepare you for the following topics between when you are chosen and when the baby arrives…
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